Some Helpful Tips On Anger Control

By Patrick John on July 14, 2009

Think about what our lives are like today; all the stress, the buzz, the overpowering technology, the crush of people in the cities, the processed food making us sick; it’s no wonder there is so much anger out there in the world, and all of us need to maintain some form of anger control just to get through the day. Holding in anger and rage can have a negative effect on you physically, and it is not a good idea emotionally to hold in your feelings, however strong they may be.

From the time we could walk and talk as little kids, it was burned into our pea brains that you should play nice and be nice, and no no no don’t hit johnny over the head with that truck. You were supposed to keep your emotions in check and don’t show any outward emotion or feelings even if you were seething inside. So, what to do, what to do. The effect of stifling all this anger and sadness and rage, is that people tend to snap at the least little provocation ( the straw that broke the camel’s back sort of thing) and take out all that pent up rage on someone who was not even involved initially, even to the point of committing murder. Venting feelings, even of sadness and fear; is a healthy thing for humans, as long as it is done with a modicum of anger control.

There have been plenty of studies done on anger management and anger control, and one of the most effective means of venting pent up rage and powerful feelings is to combine the mental pressure with a physical outlet that will give you the means to get the stress out of your system. Sometimes when under pressure, just ripping up papers or burning something or shouting your head off will do the trick; whereas other times, if the stress factors are too great and the pressure is immense, then grabbing a baseball bat and smashing something with it, or throwing dishes or glasses against the wall, or beating a pillow and screaming long and loud, will take care of the problem once and for all. A good system of anger control will not only help you get rid of the immediate problem that is eating you alive; but it will also calm you to the extent that you will find you are sleeping better at night, and you feel better physically as well.

No matter what someone has done to you to make you angry or built your rage up to the boiling point; it is never enough to justify incurring bodily harm or hurting someone else. Doing that is a one way ticket to more hurt and stress, mostly for you, and it is totally unnecessary. A verbal screaming match sometimes does wonders and clears the air as well as allows you to get what it is that’s driving you nuts off your chest; but a better way, and more effective way is to take a symbol of the person you are angry with, and direct the rage against that symbol. Burn it, stab it, whack it over the head, rip it…..get all the anger out.

Being totally alone when you vent your anger is a very important aspect of effective anger control. You don’t want to be in the middle of the living room pounding pillows and screaming while the rest of the family or group watches with curious amusement, wondering if you are going off the deep end. No, you need to be in a back room, shut in by yourself, or in your parked car: somewhere where you will not be inhibited by the presence of others and you can let fly to your heart’s content. Then you can rant and rave, and scream and shout; get out all the rage and pressure that’s built up inside so you can enjoy a little mental peace.

Finally, one of the most cathartic things you can do to help yourself get rid of deep seated anger or fear or rage against someone, is to forgive that person totally for what happened. If someone has wronged you in some way, and you are angry as hell about it; don’t let it fester and eat away at you. You end up being the victim and the loser in the situation, so if you can forgive the person totally and completely after you have used your anger control methods and vented; then you come out on top and are a much better and calmer person for it.

Keeping pressured rage and anger pent up inside you day in and day out, is not good for anyone around you nor is it good for you. Life is full of stress and hardship and people wanting to walk all over you just to better themselves, and if you let all that hurt and sadness and anger stay inside and never let it out in a positive way, you will be the worse for wear. Everyone, no matter what station in life they are, needs anger control that can help them stay calm and unstressed and be able to defuse the stresses in life as they occur. Life is to short to stay angry and hurting all the time; anger control will help you make the most out of life and feel good about it in the process.

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